Affect script psychology informs every aspect of relationships: why we want and need them, why they work, why they fail, and why their failure hurts so deeply. Marriage is a special form of relationship. Every known culture has created public rituals for marriage wherein the couple is "seen" committing themselves to one another for life. These rituals change the nature of the relationship that led to the marriage. It increases the significance and hence the vulnerability of each person to one another. Everyone who is or has been married recognizes this emotional reality. One of its consequences is that we can be embarrassed by some aspect of our spouse's behavior in public when the exact same behavior in someone else does not embarrass us at all. Why is this?

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